The concept of forgiveness is one that is so incredibly important as we talk about self-love. So often when I hear about forgiveness it is in reference to forgiving someone else who has done us wrong or with whom we have had a “falling out”, but far too little has been addressed about the importance of forgiving oneself.
You MUST forgive, not just others, but also yourself, for any mistakes you have made in your past. As T.D. Jakes so eloquently put it,
When you hold onto your history, you do it at the expense of your destiny.
You cannot rise to the level of where God wants you to be if you allow your past mistakes to hold you hostage. You will continue to make the same mistakes believing that you deserve the pain associated with those mistakes, or you will limit the joy you should experience in life because you are hiding or holding back. When you start your practice of forgiveness, you will start to be more compassionate to yourself for the mistakes you make. No one is perfect, we all mess up. You will keep messing up if you don’t stop the bleeding. The bandage is knowing that nothing that has happened, you deserved, no matter what you did. Stop assigning labels to yourself or allowing others to call you out of your name. You are made in the image of God to manifest a divine purpose. God wants you to step into your greatness. He wants you to experience profound moments of joy and love. It is your birthright. He is waiting for you to use the gifts and talents he poured into you. He wants you to make a difference in the world. He needs you to!
So today I want you to…
- Forgive yourself for not protecting your heart from those friends you told your deepest secrets who betrayed you. How could you know they weren’t trustworthy? You are not stupid. Forgive yourself.
- Forgive yourself for giving your body to that guy you thought you loved but who broke up with you right after you slept with him or who never called you back. You are not a slut or a whore. You are a beautiful child of God who made a mistake. Forgive yourself.
- Forgive yourself for trusting the wrong people to help you with your business, only to find out later that they were dishonest, cheated you or mismanaged funds.
- Forgive yourself for lying to that person you loved, because you were too scared to tell them the truth.
- Forgive yourself for getting rid of that baby when you were young, either through abortion or adoption, because you were afraid you couldn’t parent them alone.
- Forgive yourself for ANY mistakes you have made in your past.
Forgive yourself! God has.
A great video about forgiveness from Lady O which gives a great definition of forgiveness.
- How has this concept of forgiveness help heal you?
- Are you holding onto anything you must forgive yourself for?
- Learn the practice of forgiveness. Start by forgiving yourself today. I love to write this down in a journal as a way to help me release anything I’m holding onto “(Insert your name) I forgive you for…”