finding joy

Fill Your Well Up!

It’s 2014!! Yeah! I am so excited about what this year will bring for FSL!  I have started this year with a renewed enthusiasm and excitement. About October of last year I ran out of steam with all of the hats that I was juggling and needed to take a break but I really missed you all. So I am back writing on the topics and concepts that I love; living authentically, learning to value yourself, setting boundaries, forgiveness of yourself and others, friendship, and so many others too numerous to remember as I write this.

FindSelfLove or FSL (because what’s one more acronymn), is a safe place where you can feel loved and learn to love yourself. I started this blog because I believe that we all need to be reminded of how important it is to value who we are and that we must fill up our own well before we can quench the thirst of anyone else. If you give from an empty well then EVERYONE will be thirsty! FSL is that place to help you fill your well up!

I can’t wait for you to be in this journey with me!


5 Things To Do Today to Practice Self-Compassion

“Studies have shown that people who have good self-compassion are a lot more relaxed and show less anxiety and tendency for depression is markedly decreased.”  - Larry Law (The Self-Compassion Guide)

Take the Quiz

Give yourself 1 point for each statement you answer “yes” to:

  1. You have a tendency to scold yourself when you make a mistake.
  2. You have trouble getting over something that you did wrong or something that you may think you did wrong.
  3. You find it difficult to forgive yourself for mistakes you have made.
  4. You get irritated when things don’t go according to plan.
  5. You have difficulty accepting compliments from others.

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How to Find Joy When You are Working Outside of Your True Passion and Purpose

Everyday is an opportunity for you to start again. I heard this somewhere and it is so appropriate to pass on today as I sit and write this blog.

I know a thing or two about not working in my passion field or within my purpose. Although I love working with technology and developing new ways to use it (my day job), my true passion is helping others. I get the greatest joy when I can use my knowledge, time and wisdom to encourage someone else. Over the past 6 months I have been assessing if I was truly walking in my purpose and using all of the gifts God had given me to bless the lives of others and myself. My answer, a resounding NO. Continue reading…